Agender Pride Day

May 19, 2022

May 19th is Agender Pride Day! Agender as a word literally means without a gender, but as a label it can be used in a variety of ways. Common themes in how people use it include feeling they don’t have a gender, are unable to experience gender, don’t identity with any ‘available’ genders, or exist outside the concept of gender. Victra Pride Alliance [VPA] is proud to celebrate and bring visibility and understanding to the agender community.

What does it mean to be Agender?

Being agender means different things to different people. Some agender people might transition medically by undergoing gender confirmation surgery or taking hormones if they feel that it will be best for them. However, many agender people don’t transition medically — it’s a personal choice. Similarly, some agender people change their name, pronouns, or gender expression (which is, the clothing they wear, how they style themselves, etc.). However, this is totally up to them, and there’s no “right” way to be agender. An agender person may use any pronouns, such as he/him, she/her, they/them, or less commonly known sets such as e/em or ze/hir. It’s important to be respectful and considerate of other people’s pronouns, even if they don’t immediately ‘make sense’ to you.

Is Agender the same as Non-Binary?

There can be some overlap between agender and non-binary labels, but they are not the same. Agender may fall under the non-binary umbrella for some people, or some might identify with both labels at once, but others might not feel any affinity for the non-binary label and consider agender a completely separate concept. Like all labels, there is no one singular definition or hierarchy of how labels are organized, so it really comes down to individual preference. There are a few other terms which are sometimes used similarly or interchangeably, such as neutrois, genderless, null-gender, gendervoid, or neutral-gender.

Where did the term Agender come from?

The term ‘agender’ was first coined in 2000 on an online forum, where a user described God as ‘amorphous, agender.’ It was first used to describe people in 2005 on another online forum, as someone wrote “cultures can have transgender, agender, and hypergender individuals.” By 2013, the label had gained popularity enough to be included in a New York Times piece titled “Generation LGBTQIA.” In 2017, a 27 year old was granted permission by a Judge in Oregon to legally identity as agender. 2017 was also the year the annual Agender Pride Day was begun.

How to be an Agender Ally

  • They may change their pronouns or name. It’s important to use the pronouns and name they want you to use.
  • Reiterate that you’re there to support them. Ask them if there’s any specific way you can show your support: They may have a specific request.
  • Give them space to talk about being agender without expecting them to talk about it (as they might not want to).
  • Stay open-minded, educated and informed.

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